Using a positive mental attitude to build self confidence.
Saturday, February 6th, 2010 | Always Online
Life isn’t all plain sailing. Indeed, hardship, trials and tribulations are part and parcel of our lives. Encountering problems is not a bad thing, the main concern is the way we deal with it. A positive frame of mind is key for so many reasons. Positive thinking is proven to boost performance in efficiency and quality. We tend to be more confident and function better if we are feeling good and well.
I have found biological examples of this. A positive frame of mind is as a result of increased levels of neuro transmitters such as serotonin that regulate the efficiency abilities of the mind. The knock results of a positive frame of mind also include improved health not just enhanced mental health but better in the physical sense aswell. This is because of the increase to the immune system that a positive frame of mind can give you.
The opposite is also true, when we are depressed we are far more liable to contracting other diseases and mental health issues. Our interaction with others degrade, we start to think irrationally and our confidents can fall. In short this is a frame of mind that is best to avoid at all costs. Feeling unhappy ever so often is not unusual but the way we decide to face an issue comes from our state of mind.
A positive mental attitude is also about giving you a can do attitude. People who think positively are far more likely to see challenges instead of problems or opportunities as opposed to difficulties. For example, entrepreneurs that are successful usually are because they are able to spot opportunities for growth in a marketplace which other people only see troubles in. The positive mental attitude of a successful individual means that opportunity becomes a reality; because they also have the drive and motivation to succeed and make their dream come true. So as you can see there is much to be gained from a positive mental attitude. The problem for many people is in developing one in the first place.
Developing a positive frame of mind is not some new aged fad. For centuries religious men and scholars alike sought out and created techniques to harness an inner harmony. While this may have begun to make mankind closer to god the essence of this idea is just as relevant nowadays. That a positive frame of mind makes us closer to the divine while a negative frame of mind can only steer us in to ways of being that are a detriment to our lives. Monks realised this long ago which is why they devote themselves to a life of abstinence and mental and spiritual fulfilment.
One of the best ways to determine your frame of mind is to think of how you are with other people. A great way to do this is to picture how you behave towards people you do not know. Are you confident and open to meeting and talking with others? Or are you insular and afraid. Believe it or not one of the best ways to get over a negative frame of mind is to change your mindset towards the world around you and that means the people in it also. If you are usually uneasy around others then try this experiment.
One night make yourself to strike up a conversation at random in a public place. Do not worry about how you look or appear or what you talk about. A reference in regards to the weather or anything will do. Just try it and note how you feel afterwards.
You see, the way you are with people will influence the opportunities you get presented. Consider it like this who is the most likely to get a job between two people of equal ability and knowledge except for one difference, One is uptight and uncomforable with people and the other is laid back and comfortable with others. If I was the boss I know which one I would pick for the Job.
If you are intersted in learning how to develop a positive frame of mind check out Quentin’s free video on Self confidence building.